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Time Line Therapy

How we relate to the world

Our memories, our decisions, our experiences good and bad are collected in our Time Line and determine how we relate to the world. Storing these memories affects how we experience our lives and how we experience time.

The definition of time is an “indefinite, unlimited duration in which things are considered as happening in the past, present and future.”

Inside us we have a time line, a way of coding the past, present and future. We use this to know whether we have paid our gas bill, for example, so we don’t do it again. The past is also arranged in a certain way, so it is not confused with the present or future.

Edward T. Hall says that the simple ability of knowing what is a real event (outside), and what is a remembered, or made-up event, is necessary for our survival.
Language patterns used in NLP or that of good communicators are the result of knowing (either consciously or unconsciously) how people organise time inside their heads.
We have all heard the expressions ‘Put this behind you,’ ‘when you look back on this you will laugh,’ or ‘time is a great healer,’

Time has a different meaning to people all around the world and can depend on your job. A nurse who worked for 20 years doing shift work, found it difficult to organise her days when she retired. She noted she was more awake at night, than during the day. A bookeeper, tends to complete work on time and therefore, timeliness is important!
Distortion occurs when we make shifts in our experience of sensory data by making a misrepresentation of reality.

An example of this from Eastern philosophy is called the story of the rope and the snake.
A man walking along a road saw what he thought was a snake and yelled “SNAKE.” However, when he looked closer he was relieved to find it was only a piece of rope. Distortion helps in the process of motivating ourselves and planning. We distort to plan and then reconstruct imaginary futures.
If you ask someone where is your past and where is your future? Most will say the future is ahead and the past is behind or to the left or right.


Memories are stored in a gestalt, which means they are stored around certain subjects and often connected like a string of beads.

Definition of Gestalt -Psychology concept used in training. It proposes that what is ‘seen’ is what appears to the seer and not what may ‘actually be there,’ and that the nature of a unified whole is not understood by analyzing its parts. It views learning as a reorganizing of a whole situation (often involving insight as a critical factor) in contrast to the behavioral psychology view that learning consists of associations between stimuli and responses. Gestalt experiments show that the brain does not act like a sponge (as a passive receiver of information) but actively filters, structures, and matches all incoming information against known patterns to make sense of it. Gestalt theory was proposed by the Austrian psychologist Christian von Ehrenfels (1859-1932) in 1890.

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